If there were anything I can say or do to keep you ladies (and some of you guys) from going to watch the movie “50 Shades of Grey,” I think I’d do it (short of sacrificing my own family). I CANNOT emphasize enough the DEVASTATION that will come to your mind, your heart, and your relationships by seeing this movie.
If you’ve already read the book (or if you ARE reading the book right now), my advise is this - PUT IT DOWN. THROW IT OUT. BURN IT.
Wait… are you advocating the burning of books? Not normally, but in this case, I’ll make an exception.
It’s that serious. Our society has already become obsessed with sex, and the amount of skin that’s shown on magazines and in social media, even in a grocery check-out line, would’ve been considered pornography a few years ago. We see the movements to show more skin, to tear down barriers of modesty in an attempt to promote “freedom” and “gender-neutrality." This is nothing short of complete deception from the enemy.
Pornography in any form (video, pictures, written-word) is destroying our society, starting with elementary kids and moving on up the age brackets and generations. Don’t believe the lie that written-words aren’t considered porn since you can’t see anything. It’s ABSOLUTELY porn - what images does it conjure in your mind? What images are being placed on the screen BECAUSE of the written-word? Yes, it’s porn. And yes, it’s a MASSIVE and GROWING industry that is lying to its customers saying that you need satisfaction now without the care or concern of relationships and true intimacy. The porn industry is is one of the greatest drivers of the human trafficking / sex-slave industry (which is ALIVE AND WELL in our own country, in our own state, and even in our own town).
Porn tells you that you don’t need relationships for instant gratification; Porn tells you it’s ok to abuse your women and children ("teen sex" is the most searched and viewed type of porn in 2014). Porn tells you it’s ok to hook up and move on (spreading STD’s at an alarming rate and severely hampering the understanding of love and sacrifice in a relationship). Porn tells you that sex is ok and good (which it is, BUT WITHIN THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE, and when taken out of those confines, it creates emotional and mental and physical issues that take years and sometimes decades to overcome). Here’s the bottom line - PORN LIES TO YOU.
It takes you farther than you want to go (I’ve heard testimony of this from men and women I know); it keeps you longer than you want to stay (once you see it, it’s SO MUCH EASIER to go back to it the next time); it costs you more than you want to pay (emotional and physical issues arise and don’t go away easily). THE EFFECTS ON MEN AND WOMEN ARE HORRENDOUS.
What does the Bible say about this?
Matt 5:28 - if you’re lusting in your heart and mind, you’ve already committed adultery against your spouse.
1 Cor. 6:18 - FLEE from sexual immorality (i.e., RUN FROM IT!!)
Eph. 5:3 - Among you, there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality…
Your thoughts now may be, “Crap… what if I’m already doing this?” My answer is this - HAVE HOPE!! The Bible doesn’t end with condemnation!!
But the Bible also says this:
1 Thess. 4:3-5 - abstain from sexual immorality and control your own body in holiness and honor…
1 Cor. 10:13 - no temptation is taken you but that which is common to all of us, and GOD IS FAITHFUL!! He won’t let you be tempted beyond what you can handle and will provide a way of escape…
1 John 1:9 - if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to CLEANSE US from ALL unrighteousness!!!
THERE IS HOPE FOR ALL OF US!!!!
What do I do if I’m struggling with this? Repent. Find accountability. Move forward in forgiveness and the strength of the Spirit.
Men, stop viewing the websites and magazines.
Women, stop watching the sultry tv shows and reading the “mommy porn” books.
Husbands and wives, STOP viewing it on tv or online and START DOING IT with each other!! ALLOW GOD TO HEAL YOUR MIND, YOUR HEART, and YOUR MARRIAGE!!!
And this weekend, when that trash debuts in theaters all across the country, skip watching the garbage and enjoy time with each other...